Respected Hakeem Sahib Aslamalaikum! There are family problems in every house now a day, mine and some other friends homes have become hell due to these issues. My purpose of writing this is to avoid the disaster of thousands of such families. If all sisters want to lead a happy life than they should understand the basic point and that is to keep their husband happy. If your husband is happy definitely your life will prosper as well. You and your family will remain healthy. Your husband is like an engine of a train, if the engine is damaged than the bogies of the trains also become useless. If the husband is an engine than the wife and kids are like bogies. You should do such deeds so that the train keeps on moving. The staring of the house train is in the hands of the wife, it depends on the wife how she drive that train?
Some basic principles to keep husband happy
1) Take care of your husband’s food, what he likes in his food. You should prepare it for him e.g. vegetables, seeds, rice or meat, if you do not like those foods items that your husband likes than do not hesitate from preparing them. Instead you should also try to eat the same things that your husband likes, it will make him happy. Remember your husband is your well-wisher friend, not your enemy.
2) Take good care of your in laws, treat them with respect and give them honor, same like you treat your parents, siblings or the guests that come with them. When you know that some guest is about to come you start to prepare for their hospitality two days in advance. If any guest comes from your husband side your act as being sick, treat them as a Burdon on you and do not treat them well instead start to scold your husband and kids in front of them. If your husband brings something to cook for his guests you act as sick and do not cook it or do not cook the food well. Some women become so sick (not all) that the guest who come to visit become nursing staff. Opposite to this when the wife’s relatives come (not all) even if she is sick she becomes healthy, she even start to mouth feed the children and clean their garbage as well. She bears their moods but she happens to be unaware of her husband who keeps on noticing everything including behavior changes but keeps quest and bear this injustice for the peace of his house. But sooner or later this anger comes out when this volcano erupts the house is destroyed and till that time it’s too late to do anything.
Husband demands respect of his relatives
Remember! If these are your relatives or your husband’s the entire expenditure is paid by your husband, that’s why he demands special respect of his relatives.
3) Take care and nurse well of your husband during his sickness, pray specially for your husband’s business. If his business will prosper it will be a confirmation of your prosperity.
4) Take special care of your husband’s marital requirements; this is the most important issue that keep wives away from their husbands. Your happiness is in the happiness of your husband’s otherwise there are fight, battle and disaster (Abdul Jabar, Sialkot)
